Guest Post By Shell From Things I Cant Say & Music Monday





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I'm lucky enough to have a best friend. Someone who is there for me, who gets me, who I can confide everything in.


We've known each other since we were just four years-old, in preschool.  We're now in our thirties, married, and have kids. When I moved away last year, it was harder for me to leave her than it was for me to leave my extended family.
But, what seems unreal to me is that we went about thirteen years without talking. THIRTEEN YEARS.


We didn't have a fight. I went off to college and she stayed home to go to college. I can't for the life me now figure out why we didn't call each other or email(though email was something completely new to me at that point and was something off my school's server where you had to type in commands like "Read 3" or "Reply 1"). Or why we didn't get together over breaks.


I guess I figured she was happy down her own path and didn't need me any more.


Then enough time passed that it felt weird to call her.  I was worried that she would think it was strange for me to call or that she wouldn't care. My own insecurities coming through, I guess.
After college, I moved to another state, then another, then back to the first I'd moved to, then finally, back near home. Life was crazy. I'd hear through the grapevine(aaaaah, the days before facebook), a little about what she was doing. And I'd miss her- but again, I felt weird reaching out after all that time.


Then, one day, we happened to see each other in the waiting room of the pediatrician's office.  Made small talk, but then her boys were called back, then mine...and we didn't exchange any info. I felt so stupid about that.


A few more months passed and we found each other on facebook. Started "talking" on there.


Then, one day, I saw that she posted that she was taking her boys to the park. I quickly replied back, asking which one, and made plans to meet her there.


As our boys played together- her two being very close in age to my oldest two- we talked. And it wasn't weird at all. It was like no time had passed at all.


We found out that we went through some very similar things in our lives...things that it would have been nice to have someone who really understood to talk to at the time, if only we had known. And different struggles, too. Along with happy moments...moments we could have shared together....



We became inseparable after that. Many playdates with our kids and the occasional night out for us.



Until I had to move less than a year after seeing her in that peds office.


But, this time, we're trying very hard to keep that connection. Because I know that we're in each other's lives for good- that I'll never find another friend like her.

If you have a friend that you've lost touch with...what are you waiting for? Go find her again.


To check out Shell visit Things I Cant Say 

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Comments

Xmas Dolly said…
Oooo Girl! Haven't seen this one with Usher! Great choice. Man, now I can see where Timberlake gets his style. These two are a lot alike. Very cool, and CONGRATS on your Spotlight dance. I truly hope you get a lot of new followers.
Dewi Citra Sari said…
What a lovely story
I don't have any real close friend now, I hope I have one :)

Citra @ innocentia
http://childhood-obsessions.blogspot.com/
Enjoy your spotlight dance... and thanks for playing along again.
I think Usher is such a handsome guy, I'm glad you posted this for me to look at him!
Di said…
This is so close to what I wrote about! Unfortunately now isn't the right time to get back in touch with my friend. Soon I hope though!
LOVE that story about you and your best friend - my best friend and I had a similar time where we didn't talk for an extended period of time - not because we didn't want to, but she moved thousands of miles away (the Navy relocated her), then when she was moving back, I was moving...but when we did finally reconnect, it was like no time passed at all! :)

I love your song choice for this week! Good one! I'm playing along this week...and I'm now following you! ;)

Monday's Music Move Me
Tami said…
Love this song! Had to go shut off my fiance's music so I could hear something good! :)

Thanks for playing along on MMMM!
Twincerely,Olga said…
havent heard this before!! gotta go take a listen!!!!:) stop on by
Hanna said…
Hi, I'm your newest follower from Monday blog hop! Lovely Blog. You can find me at www.bouffeebambini.blogspot.com
SamiJoe said…
Hmm..seems you are part of a Music Monday...

maybe i'll pop over and link up!
Anonymous said…
I knew someone would be posting up an Usher video and I love "Yeah". This one will really get you up and moving. Congratulations on being in the spotlight this week. You're doing it with a great song..."Yeah" smiles. Happy Monday!
MommaKiss said…
Great guest post, shell. I have someone I've lost touch with, and we haven't mastered the "back together" yet. Sad, actually.
here from shell's spot.

i haven't talked to my bff from hs since ... high school. very similar stuff, i went away, she stayed home. i tried to maintain contact but realized if left to its own devices, the relationship would fade bc it was kind of one-sided (my side) and i just let it go. and i did recently friend her on FB and it was kind of weird. i didn't even feel like responding to her msgs. i did out of politeness but i don't know. the relationship is over. that's how i roll.
Such an amazing story! I'm glad you had such a positive outcome. It really makes a difference having someone there!
Adrienne said…
I'm glad you decided to reach out that day for the park. We never know what we miss because we let our pride get in the way. So happy that you didn't let that happen! :)

I stopped by from the Hop and these boys are adorbale! I'm gonna peek around a bit. :)
aims said…
i LOVE this post and the idea of this meme!!! and i heart your disclaimer~!!!!!
Megan said…
Such a good reminder - I admit, I'm dreadful at keeping in touch. I think I'm going to leave work today and call an old friend.

So, thanks.
Thanks everyone for stoping by today, Imma little behind so if I havent got to your blog yet I will soon =)
Jill said…
So great that you reconnected Shell.
Anonymous said…
If that song doesn't compel one to shake what their mama gave them--NOTHING will. Love Lil Jon!
Xmas Dolly said…
Thanks for you for the very nice compliment you left at my blog. You're such a sweetie! I truly hope you make it a habit to come rock out with us every Monday, and tell your friends. I love your taste in music to get our booties shakin'! Have a great week!
JamericanSpice said…
Turn the stereos UP! Whoo!

Ooohh get my groove on!

And Shell darling that is a great story! I agree we should definitely reach out because we never know!

Hello Yeah!

Oooh Usher! I gotta rewind this! Love it!

Nice to meet you and congrats for being featured on Music Monday.

I'm your new follower!
Des said…
Glad to have found your site...i'm your newest follower! :)

♥ reading your posts! :)

Best Regards,
Chic & Sassy Homemeaker
http://chicsassymom.blogspot.com